Your Language of Love

Blog Post 9 May 2019

We all speak our own languages of love.  These individual languages are created by a mixture of our elemental make-up, our astrological make-up and of course our conditioning and what we have been taught and shown about love throughout our early years.

Love is just another lesson we are here to learn about on the earth plane and so our souls reincarnate lifetime after lifetime to experience love in many different forms and expressions.  The aim of this is so that our souls can experience all that there is here, and through this achieve unconditional love here on the earth plane, just as it is in the spiritual realms.  As above, so below. 

To love unconditionally means to put no expectations on another soul or on your language of love.  It also means to not pass judgement, have standards or rules, or to dictate that love can only be given and received in a certain way.  The more we explore how we behave and express ourselves in love, the more we learn about our needs and what it takes to bring happiness and joy into our lives.  Some people are at their happiest and feeling fully fluent in their language of love when they can have material assets and belongings around them that tell a story of how far they have come, and what they have achieved.  They communicate their love through buying things, acquiring things and putting a value on all that is material as this is what brings them the security and safety they need to be able to be comfortable and at peace in love.  And so, this is also what they need to receive from others in love.

Some people speak a language of love that involves giving a lot of affection and physical demonstration of what they are feeling.  When you speak this language of love you will always need to physically feel that love going out from you and coming into you from your partner.  You need to hear those words, feel that kiss and melt in that embrace – that is your language and how you understand love to be. 

And then there are others who speak their language of love by deeds and doing.  They show their love and relate to love being given to them when it involves actions such as cooking a favourite meal, fixing a broken vehicle or appliance, or organising a special event that encompasses they very things their partners love the most.

There are many variations of our languages of love and so our best way forward in communicating is to learn our own language inside out.  This means understanding what makes you feel loved as well as what it looks like and feels like when you give your love to another.  And once you have mastered your language of love it is time to become bilingual or even trilingual if that is necessary.  It is essential that we learn other languages as well as our own. For example, just because it means the world to you for your partner to remember your birthday, buy you a beautiful gift and take you out for dinner, that doesn’t necessarily mean that on your partner’s birthday you should give to them that exact same treatment.  Your partner’s language of love may be quite different to yours, and rather than gifts and dinners, they may feel loved and cherished by you more when you take them on a surprise action filled date that excites and inspires them.

There is no right or wrong way to love another soul – but there is always going to be ways that feel more comfortable, make more sense and come more naturally to you.  In my opinion, truly loving another soul means that you make it your priority to know and act on what brings the most joy into your partner’s life.  And this does not have to always be big demonstrations of feelings or grand gestures.  It can be a simple as knowing that your partner loves to start the day with a cup of tea in bed, and because you love your partner and care about their happiness, you make it your job to ensure that every morning that person gets their cup of tea in bed so as their day starts with happiness and joy and that you are an important part of this.  Loving another soul is about respecting and honouring their happiness.   Not, of course, at the expense of your own, but finding a way to communicate with the one you share your life with in a way that they will feel and know your love for them, and in a way that makes them wish to respond to you with the same love, respect and care.

So, take the time to learn your language of love and to learn the languages of the ones you love the most, and in doing so you take a giant step forward in mastering the energy of love in this lifetime and towards the ultimate goal of unconditional love for all that there is.  Blessings xox